Q: Gay guy here. Met a guy online. He came over. We had incredible sex and then a great conversation lasting several hours. But—and you knew there was one coming—he told me that he lied about his HIV status. (I asked him before meeting him, like I do with anyone.) He is undetectable, but he told me initially he was “HIV/STD negative.” I got very upset—more from the lie than his status. (I know that undetectable is practically the same as negative.) I really like him, but that was a big lie. He told me all about his life and many other secrets after that. Should I swear him off for lying about such a big topic? Or is the fact he did tell me and our connection enough to give him a second chance? I hadn’t been that happy up till the reveal in, well, maybe ever. But I want to be wise. —Did Ask, Didn’t Tell
The connection you describe is hard to find—this could be the start of something great—and the lie he told was big, yes, but understandable. I think he deserves credit for coming clean right away—and a second chance.
Q: I’m a teenage girl and I’m really horny. I always think about sex, and I’d like to masturbate sometimes. I can’t live in this way, sometimes I feel physically and psychologically bad because of this terrible need to have sex or stuff. I’m single, and I don’t want to lose my virginity with a random guy. I really need some advice from you! How can I masturbate or quit this exaggerated libido? —Don’t Reveal My Name
