QI’m a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time—but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I really have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (like, stop if I’m too close and eat her out to give me some time to relax, etc), but it’s still a pain in the ass. I have a theory about this: I’m not circumcised. I know that circumcised cocks are more desensitized, as they tend to rub on everything all the time. Could my problem be related to the fact that for the first 20 years of my life, the head of my cock had never been in direct contact with anything? And if not, are there tricks that exist to help me with this problem? —Unexposed Nub Could Upset Timing
QI’m 62 years old, fit, handsome, and intelligent. I’m also as horny as a 17-year-old. My committed boyfriend/partner/husband-to-be of ten years is 41. I met him at a men’s club when he was wearing nothing but a towel, and we had great sex. We haven’t had sex since that first date. I have loved this man from that moment in the club. He is beautiful: Asian with a bit of Spanish, perfectly proportioned, athletic, smart, ambitious, creative, playful—my little brown prince. He has the most beautiful ass I have ever seen. He is from a culture that is very private and puts on a happy face—always. It’s hard for me to get inside and crack that stubborn nut. I would love nothing more than to make love to him. Some things are impossible to put into words, and lovemaking expresses so much. —Nine Outta Ten
AYour ex-husband’s problem wasn’t porn. It was insensitivity. And cluelessness. And selfishness. But for the record: It is not unreasonable to ask your partner to save the porn for “alone time,” PORN, and there’s no excuse for cruelty and inconsideration—about porn or anything else. But some couples do manage to incorporate porn into their “together time,” as the next letter demonstrates . . .
